Do you have boundaries in your marriage? Let’s get more specific. What are you going to do when you and your husband have a big fight? I mean the one where you are no longer talking to each other afterwards. Maybe there were some nasty words exchanged all in the name of anger.
Do you stay? Do you leave? Is it really that big of a deal to make you want to forsake your everlasting covenant made before God?
Let’s step back for a moment. Before that day when you disagreed about that HUGE thing that almost tore your marriage apart.
What if you and your husband made a commitment to each other that no matter how much you two disagreed on a matter, you would never leave each other or forsake your marriage in anyway?
Do you think things may have turned out differently? Maybe even that Enormous misunderstanding would not have grown out of portion because you knew when it was all over, you would end up in your husband’s arms.
There’s safety in boundaries.
How about I give you some useful boundaries right now that you can set in your own relationship to create a haven of peace in your home?
- We will never call each other derogatory names.
- We will never curse each other out.
- We will never mentally, verbally, or emotionally intimidate, manipulate or dominate one another.
The boundary is basically, we will speak to each other in love.
Love conquers all. When you stay in love, there is hope for your marriage. Once you fall out of love, all hope is gone, but if there is but a little spark within you, believe all things are possible. Ignite that spark by being the initiator of love in your relationship. A good place to start to exemplify the character of love in your marriage is by reading 1 Corinthians 13 in the Holy Bible.
13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.
13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Now meditate on these words and do them! Your man will fall in love with the way you love him, and hopefully, your arguments will cease altogether!
Love healing hearts,
PS – Watch this video “Boundaries Determine What You Do”