What I Learned from My Dad

When I was leaving Los Angeles to move back to Houston after a devastating end to a horrible relationship, my Dad told me, “You need to find a good black man.”  I thought, “A good black man. Huh, why does he have to be black?” I am a black woman, but I have never discriminated in who I dated. I’ve dated Black, White, Latino, Persian, Arab, and African. Up until that point in ...
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How a Husband Should Treat His Wife

15 Ways a Man Can Show His Wife Love Have you heard of Ezekiel bread? You know that bread they make with lentils, spelt, barley and other healthy grains. I love that bread. I have some in my refrigerator right now. Well, Ezekiel was the prophet in the Holy Bible that God told to bake that bread. Can you believe God commanded him to eat a loaf of that bread everyday for a whole...
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Perfection Has It’s Limits

I have always been a perfectionist. I strive to do my best in whatever I do. When I don’t, I feel like a failure because I know I can do better. Yep, I am pretty hard on myself.  When I got married, I had to let a lot of my perfectionist tendencies go, or at least I tried to. Not only did I have to uphold my strong ideals, but now it was my responsibility to hold my husband to...
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Being the Bigger Person

I thought I was better than that. Really? How could I do that?!!! How could I do the very thing that I hate so much? It doesn’t make sense. It’s fruitless. It’s insanity. Not to mention self-sabotage. You’re probably wondering, “What it is it already?” Okaaaay…..but I’m not proud of it. I gave my husband conditional love. The kind of love that definitely doesn’t last. You...
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Give mercy, Get mercy

Does your husband or wife refuse to show mercy toward you? I mean, they’re mean! Every little mistake you make garners a big reaction from him or her that is extremely negative. You definitely don’t want to be around them for long.  Can you see yourself in the above scenario? Are you the person being ridiculed or the one dishing out the negativity? If you tend to be harsh wit...
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Boundaries in Committed Love Relationships

Do you have boundaries in your marriage? Let’s get more specific. What are you going to do when you and your husband have a big fight? I mean the one where you are no longer talking to each other afterwards. Maybe there were some nasty words exchanged all in the name of anger.  Do you stay? Do you leave? Is it really that big of a deal to make you want to forsake your everlast...
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