Parental Guidance in Marriage

Seeking a Mate

When you are seeking a mate, should you consult with your parents for advice? I believe so. First of all, parents have more experience in the area of marriage whether good or bad. You might not have a parent around to help you with a marriage decision, if not, find a trustworthy mentor who can help give you sound advice about matrimony. I’d be willing to help you. Click this link to schedule a complimentary coaching call.

For example, in Genesis 27:46 Rebekah tells Isaac, “I am disgusted with my life because of the Hittite women. If Jacob marries a Hittite woman like these, from among the native women, what good will life be to me?” Isaac appeases his wife Rebekah by instructing his son Isaac to go back to his uncle’s house to find a wife.

Why these Hittite women bother Rebekah so much is left to our imagination, but she has probably had unpleasant communication with these women that she does not want her son to experience.

Marry a Good Black Man

My dad once told me, “You need to marry a good black man.” At first, I thought my dad was limiting my options by race, but after dating men of various ethnicity, I realized I related better to black men; but everybody’s different. This is not prejudice but a personal choice. Of course, the conversation would go deeper as you ask your mom or dad for clarity, but don’t cast off their advice as old fashioned or intolerable because God placed us in our families for a reason, and parents have a bit of wisdom to share with you.

Divert from a Difficult Woman

Parents may know certain characteristics you should look for and avoid when looking for a wife or husband. For instance, in Proverbs chapter 21:9, King Solomon warns his son that “Dwelling in a corner of a roof is better than a contentious wife in a spacious house.” Solomon has prior knowledge gained, perhaps from a sour relationship he may have experienced in one of his many marriages.

In another example, King Solomon informs his son that “It is better to live in a desert than with a contentious, vexatious wife (Proverbs 21:19). Solomon is warning his son about the pitfalls of marrying an argumentative woman, no peace in the house. Due to his father’s advice, he may divert from difficult women.

Been Around the Block

Parents have their children’s best interest at heart when it comes to marriage. No matter the case, parents have been around the block a significant number of times more than their children in relationships and have gained valuable experience they can hand down to their children. Indeed, children could gain important knowledge when discussing marriage with their parents when selecting a spouse.

Love healing hearts,

Shirah Chante

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