Healing Hearts Through the Arts

Shirah Chante is Helping God's People with Relationships

I have always been a perfectionist. I strive to do my best in whatever I do. When I donโ€™t, I feel like a failure because I know I can do better. Yep, I am pretty hard on myself.ย [bctt tweet=”I strive to do my best in whatever I do.” via=”no”]

When I got married, I had to let a lot of my perfectionist tendencies go, or at least I tried to. Not only did I have to uphold my strong ideals, but now it was my responsibility to hold my husband to this particular standard of living. After all, I am his helper; it is my DUTY!ย 

Well, letโ€™s just say that my ideal of husband reform didnโ€™t go over too well with him. Then, of course, I felt like a failure once again, and worse yet, unloved and unappreciated for my dire help and sacrifice I was making to make him complete.

Suddenly, I figured out my job was not to make him complete, but to complete him as his wife in my special way of loving him. I had to let go of the contraindications in my mind of how things ought to be and just thank God for how things are right now.

Since I learned to relax a little, things are going much more smoothly in my marriage. There is more peace and harmony in my home, children singing and me as well. Canโ€™t you hear our voicesโ€ฆla la la la la lala?

Much of my perfectionist dreams have been fought in prayer. I am learning to depend on God more and more each day to make things the way they were meant to be. โ€œNot by might, nor by strength, but by My Spirit,โ€ says the Lord of Hosts (Zechariah 4:6).ย [bctt tweet=”โ€œNot by might, nor by strength, but by My Spirit,โ€ says the Lord of Hosts (Zechariah 4:6).” via=”no”]

Letโ€™s face it, my ideal world lives somewhere in the future beyond those pearly gates, walking on streets of gold. Until then, I will make this my time to shine by being made perfect in loveโ€ฆday by day. Care to join me?

Love healing hearts,

Shirah Chante

PS – Watch “Get FREE from Perfection!”


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