Immediately after his prayer, Jacob puts a practical and meticulously planned strategy into motion. To soften his brother’s heart, he prepares an extravagant gift: hundreds of goats, ewes, rams, camels, cows, and donkeys. This was not a token gesture; it was a display of immense wealth and a profound act of appeasement.
The strategy was as brilliant as the gift was lavish. Jacob didn’t send the entire present at once. Instead, he divided the animals into successive waves, sending them ahead one after another. He instructed each of his servants to meet Esau and say that the herds were a present from “your servant Jacob” to “my Lord Esau” (Genesis 32:18). This cascade of generosity was designed to methodically dismantle Esau’s anger long before the brothers ever came face to face. Jacob’s thinking was clear and tactical.
I may appease him with the present that goes ahead of me, and afterward I shall see his face. Perhaps he will accept me (Genesis 32:20).
This approach aligns with a timeless piece of wisdom about human nature found in the Book of Proverbs. Generosity has a unique power to build bridges and mend fences.
Many seek the favor of a generous man, and everyone is a friend to a man who gives gifts (Proverbs 19:6).
A well-timed, genuine act of generosity can be a powerful tool for softening a hardened heart. It can disarm anger and create an atmosphere where peaceful dialogue and reconciliation become possible.
God bless, Shirah Chante ,your relationship coach
PS+ Watch Vayishlach: ‘Tis the Season of Gift Giving for more gift giving strategy.
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